CHOOSING YOUR WEDDING PARTY

You have great candidates for your wedding party but you’re not sure where to start. Here are some of our tips to narrow your list and pick the perfect wedding party for your special day.

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WEDDING SIZE

If you are planning a small and intimate affair ten bridesmaids may be a little over excessive. If an extravagant event is more up your alley then ten may not be so bad after all. The average number for a wedding party is 4-6 people on each side.

FINANCES

Talk finance with your fiancé.  The larger the wedding party, the more you’ll spend on flowers, hair and makeup (if you’re covering this), gifts, and more.

MORE OPINIONS

Remember that the more people you include – the more opinions there will be about every detail of your planning. Think opinions on dresses, hair and makeup, flowers, and other items you may not want opinions on.

DON’T ASK PEOPLE OUT OF OBLIGATION

Choosing people to be in your wedding party is extremely meaningful because these are the people that you are asking to stand with your and support you on your big day. You don’t have to ask someone just because you are afraid that it will hurt their feelings if you don’t. Also, you don’t have to ask someone to stand up in your wedding just because they asked you. That being said, we do make an exception for your future in-law siblings. It’s always great to include them in the wedding if it’s possible.

THERE ARE OTHER WAYS TO INCLUDE YOUR LOVED ONES

From ushers and officiants to ring bearers and flower girls, many cultures and religions have fun and traditional ways for people to be included in your wedding. Even if your big day is not going to be extremely associated with you or your partners religions or cultures – do some research on the background of them and if you find an idea that you adore go with it! This will also impress some of your friends and family who may be heavily associated with it.

Toasting the Happy Couple

So, you’ve been asked to give a toast to the newlyweds on their wedding day.

It’s a huge honor that also comes with a large amount of pressure. With our expert tips we’ve got you covered to create a stress-free, memorable, and tasteful toast.

Do:

TELL A STORY  

Using your own personal experiences illustrate a story highlighting the couple and their relationship with each other. Just remember keep your speech appropriate by staying away from inside jokes and touchy subjects.

MAKE SURE TO BE YOURSELF

Whether you’re sentimental, funny, or serious, great wedding toast come from the heart and are a reflection of the person giving it. Don’t be someone you’re not.

SPEAK UP

While giving your speech make sure to project so all of the guests can hear you.

TOAST TO THE COUPLE

At the conclusion of your speech, remember to raise your glass and wish the couple happiness as they transition into this new chapter of their lives.

Don’t:

JUST WING IT

Come prepared with you have speech to be proud of. Practice it out loud in the mirror and for a friend who will be honest with you. This will make you more comfortable and also give you an approximate length. This is the time to really polish your speech.

GO OVER TIME

Long toasts can be deadly. Keep your toast to five minutes and under to leave the crowd wanting more.

RAMBLE

It makes you look unprepared and nervous. Write down bullet points on a notecard and use those as a guide for your speech.

HAVE TOO MUCH TO DRINK BEFOREHAND

Having a cocktail or glass of wine before the toast to calm your nerves is fine but pace yourself.  Alcohol + a microphone = saying things you may regret.

Keep In Mind:

Being chosen to make a toast is your chance to honor the coupled on their big day – as well as – sending them off into their marriage with your best wishes. So don’t let stage fright keep you from enjoying and cherishing this moment with them.

Note to the Newlyweds:

Remember to thank your guests! They took the time to travel to where you needed them to be in order to help you celebrate your wedding. Showing them that you appreciate them is not only important, but a must. Your toast does not have to be long, just get your point across and you’re golden.